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star athlete calmly make the final shot, score the winning goal,
or lead his team for a touchdown in the final minute of the game.
We marvel at their talent and their determination, but what we
value and admire most is the supreme confidence they display -
they know they will succeed.
Confidence is an attribute that is alluring,
attractive, valuable, desirable and contagious. Most everyone
aspires to greater levels of it, even if they feel confident most
of the time. It is a trait that will help us create greater results
for ourselves and when leading others. Any trait with this much
benefit is one worth developing. And yes, you can develop and
strengthen your confidence.
Consider these five steps as the building
blocks for greater confidence in any part of your life.
1. Remind yourself of past successes. Confidence
builds on past success. Since you have had success before, you
can (and will) have it again. We strengthen our confidence in
any activity when we review or remind ourselves of past successes.
If you are trying to build confidence in a new area, past success
can still help us strengthen our confidence. For example, if you
have had success in doing something new in the past, review those
experiences when trying something else new - even if it is in
an entirely different part of your life.
2. Read and listen to positive materials. Fill
your mind with positive and affirming words, ideas and stories.
Read things that enhances your skills or knowledge in the area
in which you want to build your confidence. Read materials that
are generally uplifting and affirming, and read biographies of
successful people. You will find that many of them had troubles
in life, came from tough situations and still succeeded. If you
have ever thought, "Well, if they can do, I could too." Then you
realize that we can build our confidence by reading about others
stories. Reading and listening to positive materials is about
reinforcement, encouragement, and learning. All three of these
components are needed for greater confidence.
3. See your future success. Olympic athletes,
corporate executives, and successful people in all sorts of endeavors
visualize future success. Confidence will grow when we see ourselves
succeeding. Think about it, if you know you will succeed, your
confidence will soar, right? Visualizing future success does that
very thing for us. Our minds cannot tell the difference between
something real and something vividly imagined. So vividly visualize
your success. What will it look like, smell like, and taste like
to have succeeded? Who will be with you, what will you be hearing
and where will you be? How will you be feeling at that moment?
Putting this much detail into your vivid picture improves the
likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence!
4. Reframe failure. Thomas Edison spent a long
time trying to create an incandescent light bulb - to create light
from electricity. He is attributed with saying, "I have not failed,
I have discovered twelve hundred materials that don't work." 1,200!
Perhaps you feel you can reframe your failures as learning experiences
- as a chance to find out what doesn't work. But would you be
able to do so 1,200 times? Know that failures will occur - and
your confidence won't be as shaken when they come. Use the failures
as an opportunity to learn. Realize that every failure puts you
that much closer to success. When we reframe our failure as a
learning experience we reduce our fear and increase our confidence.
5. Take confident action. You wanted confidence
to help you try and succeed in new ways, right? So get out there
and get at it! You have to put your confidence to the test. You
have to practice. And, while you are taking action, make it confident
action! Remember that if you act confident, you will be more confident.
Review the other steps you have been taking to build your confidence.
If you are driving towards your new action step, remind yourself
of past successes, again. Visualize the successful outcome, again.
Build your confidence at every step of the way, but remember it
all must lead to action.
These steps are a regimen for strengthening and
building your confidence in any life situation. Use these steps
and I am confident, you will be more confident.
Kevin is Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group
(http://kevineikenberry.com/), a learning consulting company
that helps Clients reach their potential through a variety of
training, consulting and speaking services. Kevin publishes Unleash
Your Potential, a free weekly ezine designed to provide ideas,
tools, techniques and inspiration to enhance your professional
skills.
Go to http://www.kevineikenberry.com/uypw/current.asp to read
the current issue and subscribe.
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