Unfortunately we come into contact with negativity
everyday. We can't avoid it. But we do not have to let ourselves
be effected by it. So protect yourself from it.
If you travel to a foreign country, where you
could possible catch a serious disease such as cholera, polio
or malaria. Before you travel you get inoculated against it.
So how can you inoculate yourself against
negativity?
Firstly, avoid as much media negativity as
possible. Read newspapers and news channels that give you the
facts, not hype and sensationalism. Avoid TV soaps. These programs
are inclined to focus on the negative side of life. Watch educational
programs, comedies, dramas and feel-good movies. Read books
that stimulate your mind. All I am trying to say is avoid catching
the negative disease as much as possible. Do not cut yourself
off from the world just create a positive balance.
Secondly: Avoid, stop thinking and
using negative thoughts.
Thoughts like:
. I know I can't.
. I hate doing that.
. I can't do that.
. I am not that lucky.
. It won't work.
. I never win.
Thirdly, avoid mixing with negative people.
I know you can choose your friends but not your relatives, so
you can't just go along and "boot out" your mother-in-law. But
you can stop seeing friends with a negative attitude. I know
it sounds drastic but truthfully these people are doing you
harm. If you are positive about something a few choice negative
words from these negative people could cause you to question
your positive thought. In the worst case sinerio they could
change your positive to a negative.
Fourthly, always try to answer a question
with a positive statement.
For example: If you ask someone how they are
feeling and they reply with a statement like. Oh OK I suppose.
Come back with: Well, I feel great. If they start moaning about
work and how bored they are. Say something like: Yes I know
what you mean, but I have so many great ideas and I know that
by this time next year I won't be working in a boring job.
Get the idea. When someone deals you a negative,
hit them back with a positive. Practise this regularly; treat
it as a game of cards. Every time you are dealt a negative,
trump it with a positive. In the end you won't see it as a game,
it will become second nature. You will be seen as Mr or Mrs
Positive and will begin to attract people with the same positive
attitude. These people will become your new friends and you
will advance through life together.
If you look at all successful people. It could
be in the field of sport, science or business. They all have
one thing in common, they are positive. Success and happiness
are not accidents that happen to some people and not to others.
Success and happiness can be brought about by particular ways
of behaving, which are in turn determined by our ways of thinking.
In other word's it's not what happens to us that's important,
but the way we choose to interpret it that shapes our lives.
You cannot always change everything in your life immediately
but you can certainly change the way that you perceive it.
Negativity is dangerous. It drags us down physically,
mentally and emotionally. It is the single largest destroyer
of success. Negativity will destroy creativity, relationships,
advancement and ultimately, happiness. Entertaining negative
thoughts, without any doubt, tends to bring on the person concerned
the very things they fear or dread, or on which they have focussed
their attention. Negative thoughts often arise from fear, or
from insecurity, or as the result of some bad experiences, they
bring gloom and a loss of quality of life.
The individual in this situation ceases to
live; he or she becomes content with merely existing, with seeking
his or her own animal comfort, which is really to wallow in
self-pity. Life becomes an intolerable burden for the individual,
and that person makes life intolerable for others. In severe
depression even the body itself becomes unbearable. The environment
seems grey and without colour and it seems to be something seen
at great distance, having no contact with the individual and
bringing no surge of joy at its beauty.
If you think positive thoughts, positive things
will happen around you. Consequently if you continuously think
negative thoughts, negative things will happen around you. If
you believe you will not succeed. I can guarantee you will fail.
If you believe you can achieve and succeed you will. Positive
thinking is infectious and leads to a 'can do' attitude within
any individual that adopts this approach to life.
Just consider this short statement for a moment.
Whatever you think, you're right.
I once worked for possibly the most positive
man I have ever met. He had a very positive attitude. He became
highly educated and knowledgeable within his field. He always
believed that he would live his dreams. After sometime as a
successful salesman, he gained a junior management role and
surrounded himself with positive thinking sales staff. There
combined positive thinking made then a successful team. He consequently
earned further promotion. Again he was successful and was rewarded
with yet further promotion. Each time he was promoted he became
responsible for more and more employees. By employing only positive
thinking people he knew that he could only become more and more,
and more successful himself.
He now holds a very senior position within
a very large corporation. The business keeps growing and is
going from strength to strength. You see the principle is easy.
Think positive, surround yourself with positive energy and you
cant fail.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Mark Claridge specializes in teaching motivational and self-development
skills. Visit his site http://www.inthe6th.com/ In his new FREE e-book "Mindset
and Match" he covers amongst other subjects how having the correct
mindset can bring you all you want out of life and is available
at http://www.mindsetandmatch.com/